[Most people operate under the illusion that relationships are
designed to make them happy.
Relationships are designed to help you grow. They mirror to you your strengths. You will recognize these qualities in others, because you have them. They will also mirror your weaknesses. These are very often the qualities that you find difficult and/or challenging in others! They also continually give you the opportunity to measure and test your level of personal growth.
Can you embrace the idea that you are responsible for your own happiness? Or does it feel like thinking of yourself is selfish?
A truly happy person is authentic and honest and that is what they bring into their relationships. If you are making yourself happy, and it is accepted and appreciated by your partner, you will naturally want to do things and say things that will show your appreciation back to them. So, by making choices that honor you and your well-being you create happiness for yourself. If they are also taking care of themselves and have found inner happiness they will be doing the same.
This creates a circle of caring, love, appreciation, and support. This is the picture of a healthy, happy relationship. Two whole people choosing to be together.
My personal intention within my own relationships is this, “I am not looking for someone to make me happy. That is my job. I am looking for someone to be happy with…..to share my happiness with.” This puts the responsibility where is needs to be…..with me. I believe it is because I take responsibility that I also have freedom…….and freedom makes me happy!!!