The Everyday Victim Archetype


What exactly is the Everyday Victim Archetype? It’s that aspect of the Victim Archetype that speaks to you everyday. It’s the part of you that has a hard time saying “no,” disappointing others, and setting boundaries. It’s the part of you that blames and complains.

It’s the part of you that  gives your power away to please others.


Archetypes are simply universal, collective patterns of thoughts and behaviors. Think of the archetype of mother, father, artist, or teacher. You have an understanding of who those people are going to behave, because of the patterns that describe them.


The Victim Archetype is all about survival. Mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual survival. It’s an archetype that we embody and live with everyday. We don’t have to be a survivor of abuse, trauma, or disease to embody the Victim. Those are definitely aspects of survival, however, there are also the Everyday aspects.


At the core of the Victim Archetype is fear, and fear creates a need for survival. We don’t need to be in fear for our life to feel fear. Our most basic fear is loss, and….

The fear of loss is at the core of the Everyday Victim Archetype.

 

 

The Everyday Victim Archetype fears loss of love, of community, of approval, and of hopes and dreams. To not feel that, we learn to please, to not disappoint, to seek outside validation and approval,  we do this to feel “part of” the family, and the community.

Women, in particular, are haunted by the Everyday Victim.


Women have inherited a collective consciousness of pleasing, of getting along, of being nice. For centuries, it’s what kept women safe. It wasn’t that many years ago that women were dependent on a man for survival, and not for themselves alone, also for their children.

And, It is was not just having a man, a protector, that kept us women safe. Being ostracized by the women of a tribe or community, also put women at risk. If not part of the group, who would watch the children? Who would share resources and food?

It’s this energy, these thought patterns that are still with us today. We call them the Everyday Victim Archetype, and it is becoming aware of how these patterns affect us, that determine our state of mind and happiness.

How present is the Everyday Victim Archetype in your life?

Note: With this new understanding in mind I have partnered, once again, with Evelyne Verret and we have created an online class which will be launched in January on the Everyday Victim Archetype. I will keep you posted.