What is a “midlife crisis” anyway?

What exactly is the crisis? I think it is about finding your way back to yourself. I think you were born knowing your worth and your value. I think you were born with a loving heart and looked at the world with eyes filled with wonder. And then you were judged, you were measured, you were labeled, you were told how to be “good” and shamed for being “bad.”

This is a judgmental world, with judgmental organizations.

Many religions teach of hell and damnation, of sin, of God’s judgement….of Judgement Day. The school systems label, grade and judge. Athletics teach of competition, winning and losing. The media tells you that you are too fat, too thin, too pale, too bald….even Santa judged whether you were “worthy” of a gift! Ugh!! Can you see how you have been taught is how to weigh worth, judge, and assign blame and guilt? Then here comes the Golden Rule where you were told to “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” If you were raised to judge, will you not judge your neighbor? If you judge yourself as you were taught, is that not treating your neighbor as yourself? Then the cycle perpetuates….to your children. Unless you gained the understanding that Love is the answer, that loving yourself is the way……you will teach what you learned.

Let’s change this. Let’s teach the children about self love, about self care.

Rather than modeling judgment, and then telling children to “be nice,” lets teach them to “be nice” to themselves. Then you begin to change the world. By loving yourself enough to stop judging, by accepting yourself, and by sharing that with your children you can change the world one child at a time. If that was the community in which your children were truly raised, wouldn’t they then stand a better chance of remembering what they knew when they arrived…..their value and worth. Wouldn’t they then share that with the world? It’s never too late to change. Today, try finding those eyes filled with “Wonder”, and look through them at your world. {To read more blogs in this catagory {click here}