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What exactly is the Everyday Victim Archetype? It’s that aspect of the Victim Archetype that speaks to you everyday. It’s the part of you that has a hard time saying “no,” disappointing others, and setting boundaries. It’s the part of you that blames and complains. It’s the part of you […]

The Everyday Victim Archetype

I’m seeing so much turmoil in people these days, I’d like to share some thoughts and insights. Understanding  Thought Forms and Pain Bodies may help. They are collective energy….made up of thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, all of which are pure energy. Simply put……   The energy of your thoughts and […]

Pain Bodies

It seems the topic of resistance is surfacing frequently. It shows up continually in the sessions of my clients, and I’ve been locating it in myself and using it to identify areas to heal. It seems to be a part of most all emotional wounds, particularly if they are from […]

Resistance

When we love someone we want to see the best happen for them. It’s difficult to sit by and watch them struggle. This is especially true if we believe we can see another way, a better way. That is the time to remember the great quote by James Allen Lane, […]

Allowing

It’s that time of year…. What do you want to create this New Year? What do you want to achieve? What do you want to bring in…..and what do you want to let go? And most importantly…   Who do you want to be? Ultimately, “who you want to be” […]

Planning a New Year

The root of the Victim Archetype is survival. It shows up when you feel that your survival is compromised, whether it’s physical survival, survival of your hopes and dreams, or survival of your sense of self. When stuck in your Victim, your story is all about fault, blame, and woundedness. […]

Victim Archetype

Do you listen to the whispers of the Saboteur and think it’s Inner Guidance? Are your thoughts bringing you closer to something you love and desire, or are they keeping you away? How do you tell the difference? The Saboteur is the guardian of your choices, and this archetype, like […]

The “Saboteur”

What do you think of when you hear the word “Prostitute?” Chances are, it doesn’t have a very positive meaning. I imagine it brings up all kinds of images, mainly of women who sell their body…..who have sex for money.                      […]

Your Inner Prostitute

So far we have explored Authenticity, Presence, and Courage as important aspects to Living as Your Authentic Self. It’s time to look at Vulnerability. Brene’ Brown defines Vulnerability in her book Daring Greatly as “uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.” Why would you risk exposure? Because it’s necessary to experience what […]

Vulnerability

The third component necessary to live as your Authentic Self, is Courage. We’ve previously looked at Presence as bringing who you are into the moment… and Acceptance as allowing whatever “is” in that moment. Courage is what it takes to get there. Courage is not about winning or losing. Courage […]

Courage

We are on to the second component necessary to live as your Authentic Self, and that is Acceptance. (The first was Presence.) To read that blog [Click Here]. With Presence you bring who you are into the moment….you embody that space in time. Presence is about “being.” Acceptance is about […]

Acceptance

I believe the first component to living your life authentically is what we like to call Being Present, or “In The Moment.” In the spiritual community these words are tossed around frequently. Used this way, the definition is “the period of time now occurring.” It is an aspect of time […]

Presence

I teach that we all have one purpose in common, and that is to come to Self-Love. To me, that means we are here to discover and live as our true self, our Authentic Self. So, let’s look at that….. What is your Authentic Self? Who is your Authentic Self? […]

Authentic Self

I taught a class last weekend on Boundaries. In attendance were 15 amazing people who all contributed to the class dynamic. Reflecting on the energy of that class, I realized that whether or not someone spoke up in class, each person’s presence was essential to the outcome of the class. […]

Great Attendance at the Boundaries Class!

Comments from previous participants….. “It was a life changing experience. Insightful and very helpful” C. Payne “Excellent class on a very important topic that will have a huge impact on my life.” l. Edwards “This class helps me feel confident setting boundaries, instead of feeling guilty.” Val “Cathy’s knowledge, kindness and […]

Healthy Boundaries

I remember someone once referring to the “zen” state of peacefulness as being flat-lined. They told me that they would rather be dead than than go through life feeling nothing, no highs and lows. Well, when you flat-line you are, in fact, dead. You have all seen it a hundred […]

Neutrality

I read and then shared something on Facebook the other day. Yeah, yeah, it was Facebook…..but this was worth, not just reading, but sharing. It was a post that made me think….and in thinking realize that changing the world is just one action, one step, away at any given time. […]

Spread Love

Are you tied up in knots? It could be Fear. Fear can stop you in your tracks, paralyze you, and tangle you up in knots! As a human, you have all kinds of fears, from phobias to basic human fears such as aging and dying. You can have fears from your imprinting, […]

Fear

If life were a play you would study the “role” you were assigned. You would develop the character by figuring out his or her motivation, attitudes, emotions, and beliefs. Real life is not so very different. For each “role” you take on there are inherent beliefs or “pictures” that come […]

It’s Your Life!

There is an element of expectation in waiting…a bit of the future. A measure of a plan set in motion. It is different from being in the moment. When you wait it is with anticipation of coming events, rather than just being present. Being  fully present in the moment allows you […]

Waiting

This morning I sat and watched a foggy sunrise over my marshy, little lake. As the lake became illuminated I could see the reeds and water lilies that fill it this time of year. In a small pool of open water several ducks and geese were swimming. I thought about […]

Growth

A friend of mine remarked the other day on the big difference between “feeling” our wounds and “carrying” them. I was stunned by this seemingly simple insight. It is the difference between being involved in the healing needed….or still being caught drama of the situation. They are very much on […]

Wounds

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Clearing Toxic Emotions

Trauma comes in  many forms and there is a big difference between experiencing trauma and becoming traumatized. You become traumatized when you feel that your life, your existence as you know it, is threatened. It is a very personal experience, and what is traumatizing to one person, may be no big […]

Survival

What is a “midlife crisis” anyway? What exactly is the crisis? I think it is about finding your way back to yourself. I think you were born knowing your worth and your value. I think you were born with a loving heart and looked at the world with eyes filled […]

Golden Rule?

[Most people operate under the illusion that relationships are designed to make them happy. Relationships are designed to help you grow. They mirror to you your strengths. You will recognize these qualities in others, because you have them. They will also mirror your weaknesses. These are very often the qualities that you find […]

Purpose of Relationships

How do you feel when you see another suffering? Do you feel the need to “do” something? Do you feel the need to help? To rescue or save them from that lesson or experience? Do you feel it is your “responsibility?” Does their age or gender make a difference in […]

Are you a Rescuer?

I have been working on shifting and eliminating my limiting beliefs. A short while ago I started a list of limiting, or negative, programming.  I tuned into my thoughts and wrote down limiting beliefs as I became aware of them. Before I started the list and truly began to pay attention, […]

Limitations

Do you continue to “seek” happiness believing it’s something you must earn or achieve?Do you look for love…seeing it as something outside of you? Happiness does not come and go….your attention to it comes and goes. Gratitude does not come and go, your focus on it comes and goes. Love […]

Seeking

Manifestation, or creating what you desire, is a buzz word these days. It’s not a new concept, it has been around since the beginning of time. In the bible there are many references. In fact, Jesus was a master of manifestation. He used this energy to feed the masses (loaves […]

Manifesting