When we love someone we want to see the best happen for them. It’s difficult to sit by and watch them struggle. This is especially true if we believe we can see another way, a better way. That is the time to remember the great quote by James Allen Lane,
“Adversity does not build character, it reveals it.”
We must let our loved ones become “who” they are, by experiencing life and letting it reveal to them their character.
It’s so important to realize that you can’t create another person’s life for them….even if they are your partner, friend, or child. Nor should you be able to. You may have great vision for them…see their stumbling blocks….have a clear understanding of their perspective and how they can shift it…..BUT….in the end it’s their journey and they will only be able to see through their own beliefs, their own perspective. AND, that is the way it needs to be. Where they are going and how they get there will happen in the in the time and space that is right for them.
Their life is their creation.
Is there anything you do to “help”another? Yes, absolutely. Get out of their way, and pull your energy out of their space. It is possible that free from interference they will get where they are going much quicker. Love them…..just as they are in all their glorious imperfection. And, “hold the space” for them to reach their highest potential….not your goal for them. When you look at them see the light in them, see them happy, and fulfilled in their life, because if that is the way they feel, they will have found their way. It may not be the path you would have chosen for them. It will be theirs.
There is truth to the statement, “You don’t have the right
to save someone from their lessons.”